being at home in yourself


No, not by: in. The news has brought body dysmorphia into frame because of how much time we spend staring at our own faces on Zoom. I knew this was affecting me personally, so I turned off the function that lets me see myself. But even so, it can be difficult to stay in the present moment and be confident in your own body. That’s why I’ve started a personal practice to be at home in myself.

What Does It Mean?

You’ve probably heard the phrase, “my body is a temple.” My freshman year geometry teacher used to say it, and she added “friends” at the end (because that’s just how she talked). It used to annoy me. What does this have to do with geometry? Spoiler alert — it had nothing to do with geometry. But there is a bit of truth to it.

Of course, I take care of my body and treat it with kindness. I eat whole foods (for the most part) and do yoga and all the things I should be doing. But I’ve been thinking about this idea of what it means to be whole, and to be home. What does home mean to you? Is it a place? Is it a person? What if, instead of any external thing, home is yourself?

Let that marinate for a minute. No matter where you go, you can always find home, because home is you. Home is wherever you are. I don’t know about you, but I find that idea insanely comforting. Even if you’re far away from your physical house, or from the person you feel most comfortable with, you can still be at home.

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Temporary

We don’t treat our bodies as our permanent homes. Our bodies take care of us, remind us of what we need, teach us to listen, to pause, to move… Our bodies are so smart and intuitive that sometimes, we forget we even have bodies. We’re so caught up in the day-to-day movements that we forget to just EXIST. Feel your muscles and bones shifting. Feel your lungs expanding to take in oxygen. Feel your stomach digesting food or your throat swallowing water. Feel your feet on the ground and know that you are home.

It doesn’t matter if people come in and out of your life. And for someone who’s moved around quite a bit lately, it doesn’t matter if your physical space changes all the time. You are home at any given time, with any given person, at any given place. And you should be thanking your body for the privilege to live in it.

Some days, I find it hard to be in my body. But that does not mean I am any less grateful to have it. Because there are so many things I couldn’t experience without the body I have — rollercoasters, the ocean, hiking, a warm cup of coffee, a fluffy cat… Count your blessings today and remember that your body is something to marvel at. Not just because it’s a body, but because you are in it, and you make it beautiful.